How to Overcome the Fear of Failure

by | May 12, 2022 | Uncategorized

How to Overcome Your Fear of Failure

Have you ever been so afraid of failing that you decided not to try at all?

I’ve seen and heard it from my clients over and over. They will come to me with a killer idea for a business, or a new direction they’ve been considering for their business. They are so lit up and they talk at length about the fun, the excitement it could be launch this thing that is on their heart. And then they say “But..” and proceed to spew all the reasons why it won’t work, why they couldn’t do it, why they don’t have enough time and why they don’t have enough money.

The fear of failure can be completely immobilizing. It can take our enthusiasm and drain it right down to zilch. The thing about this is the energy is already in motion. You have already aligned the energy of your next big move! Now we’ve got to deal with the emotions that go along with practicing a new direction.

On the curious adventure of overcoming my fears, I’ve explored this topic at length. Let’s explore together, what is the fear of failure, the why behind your fear of failure, what change is really about, and the journalling practice that I developed to help overcome the fear of failure.

What is the Fear of Failure?

The fear of failure is when we allow that fear to stop us doing the things that can move us forward to achieve our goals. At extremes, this fear called atchiphobia can be an unwarranted chronic or persistent fear of doing something wrong in your life or making any mistake.

Why this matter in business so much is that the fear of failure will literally keep you from creating the business of your dreams. The business of your dreams is that one that is in your imagination. If we don’t protect, nurture and deal with our emotions surrounding the fear of failure, your negative emotions and attitude will be what stands in the way of you making it real. Your work is to reframe your emotions around your fear, and what forces us to settle.

The why behind your fear of failure

Fear is really saying a change is about to happen, and we’re feeling uncomfortable about it. Fear really equals fear of the unknown, going beyond our comfort zones. Fear of the unknown means you’re afraid of anything that outside of your comfort zone, anything that might be perceived as strange or foreign. And well, that’s everything beyond what you’ve already done.

Needless to say, that means when we are going after our dreams, we are going to encounter this fear of the unknown. In Elizabeth Gilbert’s book, Big Magic, she explains this as that on every adventure you’re embarking on – you have Fear & Creativity in the car with you. Fear is a part of the journey, and we can’t ignore the fact it’s coming along with us. But we can make sure that Fear is in the backseat and not driving!

What fear is really about is change.

Change equals movement plus adventure.

Change is the transitions that happens in our lives, and it causes movement in our minds, bodies and spirits and then we embark on grand adventures. I like to think about change as an adventure because when I go for an adventure, I prepare the best I can, however I’m usually met with situations that I didn’t prepare for. Adventure is entering on to a new trail into with a cheerful attitude, a backpack full of tools & nourishment, and a willingness to explore and get curious. Adventure happens outside of your comfort zone.

Settling is the opposite – it’s playing it safe, staying put where you are, and refusing adventure on the grounds that you don’t know what will happen. It’s our default habit because it’s known, it’s already tangible to us. Settling means we don’t have to risk being vulnerable. We don’t have to show up with a good attitude, we don’t have to pack our backpacks with nourishment or tools we’ve refined. We can just float along with our current self-soothing (and self sabotaging) methods – food, alcohol, drugs, shopping. We are not curious at all – in fact, when we see different attitudes, ways or healthy adventure, we’re defensive. We lash out at the people who are creating change and doing things differently, because it’s safer to stay in our unawareness. Over time, this turns into unhealthy outcomes like depression, addiction, debt and weight gain.

When we settle, our dreams are suffocated. There’s no space for them to grow.

The epiphany of things must change.

The power of making lasting change is always proceeded with awareness. There is this horrifying moment where you become aware of that you settled. You realize that what you’ve created simply is not line with you, your vision or your values. You may become angry, horrified or even down right disgusted with yourself. It’s okay to feel every single one of these feelings. It’s okay to admit to yourself that this is NOT what you want.

This place of epiphany is the place to start. It’s the birth place of real, sustainable and lasting change.

You get to choose – stay with the fear and settle for the known, or go on the adventure with change.

So how to get over the fear? A journalling practice.

Fear Facing Self Practice Workbook | Inspired Business

After facing change and fear within my own business quite often, I developed a fear facing self practice. My gift to you is this free workbook to explore your own winds of change.

This workbook is a self-journalling practice that assists you in defining your fear and the outcomes you’re afraid of, how you are feeling and reframing what you want from the contrast of what you currently are challenged by. The workbook helps you redefine your language and intentions and then brainstorm micro actions you can take to get closer to what you want.

Click here to download it.

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